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Positive Discipline: The First Three Years: From Infant to Toddler--Laying the Foundation for Raising a Capable, Confident Child (Positive Discipline Library)

Jane Ed.D. Nelsen, Cheryl Erwin, Roslyn Ann Duffy

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Total reviews: 36 Average rating: 3.5 of 5

Editorial Review:

Make a Difference During the Most Important Years of Your Child's Life
The months leading up to the birth of a child are filed with joy, dreams, plans—and a few worries. As a caring parent, you want to start your child out in life on the proper foundation. But where do you go for the answers to such questions as: How do I communicate with an infant who doesn't understand words? How can I effectively teach boundaries to my toddler? Should I ever spank my child?
Over the years, millions of parents just like you have come to trust Jane Nelsen's classic Positive Discipline series. These books offer a commonsense approach to child-rearing that so often is lacking in today's world. In Positive Discipline: The First Three Years, you'll learn how to use kind but firm support to raise a child who is both capable and confident. You'll find practical solutions and solid advice on how to:
·Encourage independence and exploration while providing appropriate boundaries
·Use non-punitive methods to instill valuable social skills and positive behavior inside and outside the home
·Recognize when your child is ready to master the challenges of sleeping, eating, and potty training, and how to avoid the power struggles that often come with those lessons
·Identify your child's temperament
·Understand what the latest research in brain development tells us about raising healthy children
·And much, much more!
Containing real-life examples of challenges other parents and caregivers have faced, Positive Discipline: The First Three Years is the one book that no parent should be without.

Respectful Parents, Respectful Kids: 7 Keys to Turn Family Conflict into Cooperation

Sura Hart, Victoria Kindle Hodson

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Total reviews: 11 Average rating: 4.5 of 5

Philosophical Conundrum 3 out of 5 stars.
40 of 41 people found this review helpful.

I have followed the principles in this book as well as other NVC books and love the quality of connection I have with my kids (ages 5 and 2). However, now that my older son is in Kindergarten, we're dealing with a huge problem. The teacher has 24 kids in the class and does not have time to negotiate and find a win-win solution with each one. My son is getting in trouble almost every day for not following directions (i.e. clean up when everyone is cleaning up, not on his own schedule)and is starting to feel like a bad kid. Now I feel like we have to re-parent in some ways using a more 'love-and-logic' approach. I never wanted to be the kind of parent who says, "Do it because I said so." But I now realize that kids need to learn to follow the rules so that they themselves can be happier in society. We now do a lot of talking about what a 'team player' does. This is a great book but for me, it's missing the piece about teaching your kids to follow the rules, because that's how school, work and much of society work. It's wonderful for a parent and child to respect each other equally but this needs to be balanced with the idea that kid's individual needs (or anyone's for that matter) often cannot be accommodated. The philosophical conundrum for me is when to be the NVC parent and when to be the parent who says, "If you're a member of this family, this is what we do (i.e. sit down all together for dinner)." I guess the perfect parenting approach is eclectic; borrowing a little from each theory.

Editorial Review:

More than a tool to correct bad behavior, this handbook urges parents to move beyond typical discipline techniques by creating an environment based on mutual respect, emotional safety, and positive, open communication. The seven outlined principles redefine the parent-dominated family by teaching parents how to achieve mutual parent/child respect without being submissive, set firm limits without using demands or coercion, and empower children to open up, cooperate, and realize their own innate potential. Based on Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication process, the framework helps parents break down the barriers to outstanding relationships with their kids by avoiding destructive language and habits that keep parents and children from understanding one another. Activities, stories, and resources help parents immediately apply the seven keys to any parenting situation.

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk

Adele Faber, Elaine Mazlish

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Total reviews: 178 Average rating: 4.5 of 5

It works! 5 out of 5 stars.
1 of 1 people found this review helpful.

when you start using the methods your life changes! I did it with my 6 year old and so far it changed our lives! a must read!

The Essential Parenting Book 5 out of 5 stars.
0 of 0 people found this review helpful.

Note that this book will not tell you how to discipline or punish your child. Nor will it teach you how to "make" your child "mind you." This book WILL teach you how to engage cooperation without disrespecting your child. The skills taught here will take a lot of practice. It may be several weeks before results are apparent. My son is not an "easygoing" child, but this book has changed our relationship. I now have read it several times and continue to re-read it whenever my son goes through a transition. The skills taught are simple but they really work!

Editorial Review:

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk is an excellent communication tool kit based on a series of workshops developed by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. Faber and Mazlish (coauthors of Siblings Without Rivalry) provide a step-by-step approach to improving relationships in your house. The "Reminder" pages, helpful cartoon illustrations, and excellent exercises will improve your ability as a parent to talk and problem-solve with your children. The book can be used alone or in parenting groups, and the solid tools provided are appropriate for kids of all ages.

The Defiant Child: A Parent's Guide to Oppositional Defiant Disorder

Douglas Riley

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Total reviews: 41 Average rating: 4.0 of 5

A must for raising teenagers 5 out of 5 stars.
3 of 4 people found this review helpful.

This book became my "bible" for raising my teenage daughter. All parents of teenagers should read this book!

AMAZING 5 out of 5 stars.
2 of 2 people found this review helpful.

This book is a very easy read. I was amazed while reading this book at how well this author seemed to know my son (maybe I should be receiving royalties) :). I have changed my views on my son and my own behaviors that increase his disruptive behaviors. I have already started implementing many of the strategies with my son and have seen a complete turn around with him and my entire household. Anyone who is exposed to a disruptive child should read this book. I have always loved my child but now I actually like him and don't have to dread coming home to whatever he may have in store for me.

Informative Read 3 out of 5 stars.
1 of 1 people found this review helpful.

The descriptions of the ODD child's view of the world were quite insightful. I also liked the idea of holding children accountable for their actions, something that doesn't seem to happen enough. However, I have a feeling that most parents will balk at the extremes they will have to go to in order to get their child to change. They may intellectually understand what needs to be done, but if people had the stamina to enforce such consequences in the first place, there wouldn't be so many ODD children needing help. Still, a very informative book that I will recommend to others.

Editorial Review:

The perfect book to help you give your oppositional-defiant child the help he or she needs.

Your Defiant Teen: 10 Steps to Resolve Conflict and Rebuild Your Relationship

Russell A. Barkley, Arthur L. Robin

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Total reviews: 2 Average rating: 5.0 of 5

Your Defiant Child 5 out of 5 stars.
3 of 4 people found this review helpful.

This is an excellent book for all parents who are stuggling with discipline issues with their children. I recommend this book in my practice for parents of teenagers. The authors have extensive experience and they do not treat the subject simplistically.

Editorial Review:

When teen behavior crosses the line, frazzled parents need a reliable source of expert advice to help them take the situation in hand. Now they have one. Russell A. Barkley and Arthur L. Robin--award-winning researchers and coauthors of a leading book on defiant teens for therapists--have created a clinically proven self-help program that parents can use to restore order and rebuild trust. Describing 10 simple steps that lead to better behavior, Your Defiant Teen demonstrates how to establish common ground, encourage mutual respect, and introduce cooperative problem solving--all without escalating the struggle for control. Much more than just a way to keep the peace, Drs. Barkley and Robin offer parents a means to teach their teenagers skills that will serve them well for a lifetime. Includes helpful reproducible checklists and forms.

Connection Parenting: Parenting Through Connection Instead of Coercion, Through Love Instead of Fear, 2nd Edition

Pam Leo

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Total reviews: 27 Average rating: 5.0 of 5

Fuzzy Advice for Fuzzy Thinking and Warm Fuzzy Feelings 3 out of 5 stars.
5 of 6 people found this review helpful.

This is a book for people who want to feel this type of parenting. Those who want to think through it will be very disappointed.

_Connection Parenting_ is targeted at parents or parents-to-be who have emotional baggage from their own childhood. It is a rather short book and thus much of the space that I would have preferred it spend on specific, concrete advice on working with one's children was instead dedicated to helping parents get beyond their hang-ups. This can be frustrating if you do not have that many hang-ups.

In addition, there are a number of assumptions made about this type of parenting, which are not backed up by hard evidence. The examples of respectful, loving dialogue are good, but too few, and there are precious few examples of working with children who are feeling combative, or who are already angry, for whatever reason.

I was raised in a gentle household and I believe in gentle, connecting, attachment-fostering parenting. But I felt like I should be going through it in a cold public-space basement with seven other adults in a meeting on folding chairs, and there is a man across from me crying or something, and the rest of us are stuck praying that the facilitator does not try to initiate a group hug.

It is more a self-help book than a parenting book. I am glad that I got _Adventures in Gentle Discipline_ at the same time, because this one was not very helpful for me.

Editorial Review:

"Connection Parenting" is based on author Pam Leo's seven week parenting series, "Meeting the Needs of Children," that she has been teaching for over sixteen years. The premise is that a strong parent-child bond is the key to children's optimal human development and our most effective parenting tool. Connection Parenting is a proactive approach to parenting that supports parents and caregivers in creating and maintaining the strong bonds children need to thrive.

Setting Limits: How to Raise Responsible, Independent Children by Providing Clear Boundaries (Revised and Expanded Second Edition)

Robert J. Mackenzie

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Total reviews: 25 Average rating: 4.5 of 5

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Start Setting Effective Limits — Now!
Do your children misbehave? Do they repeatedly ignore or refuse your requests for proper behavior? Are you constantly fluctuating between permissive and authoritarian parenting, with little or no success? Are you convinced there has to be a better way? There is. Setting Limits will help you establish the positive, respectful, and instructional groundwork your children need for proper ethical and behavioral development
In this revised and expanded edition of his popular book, Robert MacKenzie, Ed.D., demonstrates proven techniques and procedures that not only correct misbehavior but instill the cooperation and conduct you want and expect from your children. This book shows parents how to:
·Enforce clear, firm, and effective boundaries
·Put an end to conflicts and power struggles
·Establish rules that encourage cooperation
·Teach children important problem-solving skills
·Apply logical consequences of misbehavior
Children need limits to guide their development. With MacKenzie's expert guidance, you will learn how to build and enforce the instructive boundaries necessary for a happy and rewarding family life.

Temper Your Child's Tantrums (Pocket Guides)

James C. Dobson

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Total reviews: 21 Average rating: 2.0 of 5

0 Stars 1 out of 5 stars.
17 of 44 people found this review helpful.

Or how about negative stars. This book is dangerous. You can't even call this a philosophy of child rearing. Rather, it is a tantrum of it's own. Foolishness on paper.

James Dobson is a sadist and a pervert 1 out of 5 stars.
14 of 55 people found this review helpful.

Pinching a child's trapezius muscle? Hitting him or her with a belt or a stick hard enough for it to hurt? James Dobson should be put away.

Raising children this way may make them obedient to their parents, but they will be prone to abuse others once they reach adulthood. Look at Adolf Hitler and Saddam Hussein.

At best, children who are physically abused will grow up to practice BSDM.

This book deserves no stars.

back to basics 5 out of 5 stars.
11 of 19 people found this review helpful.

I really wish I had this book when I was raising my daughter. The book gave very good ideas about ways to teach without throwing a fit or having one back in your face from the toddler. The idea of spanking is long gone as a means of discipline and this book gave many ideas of ways to instruct, draw boundaries without causing high blood preasure for the parents and I really see how it works with my grandchildren.

Editorial Review:

Practical help for every parent who has ever wondered how to control a youngster. Here are the keys to correcting a child in a firm but understanding way.

Creative Correction

Lisa Whelchel

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Creativity Helps! 5 out of 5 stars.
1 of 2 people found this review helpful.

Like most moms, I want to have obedient, fun children. I was, however, struggling to find effective means to discipline the children when they strayed. This book is one which I plan to read regularly so that I can take more and more of Lisa's ideas to help me with the kids. I would highly recommend it. I already bought a second copy for my sister and I plan to recommend it to anyone who is searching for something new to do to reach the heart of the child. Contrary to what some have written, this book does not endorse or encourage abuse of any kind.

Editorial Review:

Drawing from her own family's experiences and from interaction with other parents, Lisa Whelchel offers creative solutions for parents who are out of ideas and desperate for new, proven approaches to discipline. In addition to advice on topics such as sibling conflict and lying, Whelchel offers a biblical perspective and down-to-earth encouragement to parents who are feeling overwhelmed. A handy reference guide that provides ideas for specific situations rounds out this resource that will be a blessing to parents and their children. Now in softcover.

You Can't Make Me (But I Can Be Persuaded): Strategies for Bringing Out the Best in Your Strong-Willed Child

Cynthia Ulrich Tobias

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Total reviews: 18 Average rating: 4.5 of 5

Disheartening Unbiblical view of children 1 out of 5 stars.
2 of 6 people found this review helpful.

If you are a Christian, then please read my review. Cynthia Tobias has been greatly lauded in the homeschool community for her educational theories. But, as a Christian mom, I have some serious concerns about her perspectives on strongwilled children. At first, as I was reading this book, I thought, well, you can sift through what she says to glean what you can. But, as I read on, I came to have major issues with this book. By her scale in the beginning of the book for strong willed people (1 to 12, 12 being high), I am a 10 or 11. So, I'm a very strong willed person myself.

These are two examples of why this book concerns me. She tells a story about when she was in church and learned the song, "Trust and obey" Well, since she didn't like the song the way it was, she sang "Trust and Comply," substituting comply for obey and the last line of "Trust and obey for there's no other way, to be happy in Jesus than to trust and obey" She sang "Trust and Comply, for I know the reason why, to be happy in Jesus than to trust and comply." Now, this may seem silly, but her point is that it was HER choice to obey--taking God out of the picture. We are saved by God's GRACE--His ACTION, NOT OURS. And obedience is important.

She repeatedly talks about how important it is always to give strong willed children choices all the time and not tell them what to do. I'm sorry, but when I'm crossing a busy street and ask for my daughter's hand--I am not going to give her a choice! It is absolutely important that she obey me!

The second story comes later in the book about a time when she was teaching English at a public school. I am by trade a middle school teacher. She uses this story as an example of how Strong willed children believe that rules are only guidelines and that they are going to live with them as such--and most importantly that this is OKAY from her perspective! Back to the story, she tells the story of being told by her department chair to use a set of particular books in her class. She didn't want to, so she checked out the books and took them to her classroom. She passed out the books and instructed the students to sit on them for the class period. Then she collected them and returned them. The Dept. Chair asked if she used them and she said "Yes." No, she did not! As she retold the story, there was no remorse or regret for what she did! But, there is a huge integrity issue there. I am sure those students knew exactly what she was doing. What kind of example was she setting for them--that they didn't need to respect authority? She surely wasn't in this case.

When I look at my little girls and my particularly strong willed one, I want them to grow up with a healthy respect for authority and a willingness to be obedient and submissive. I also desire for them to be independent individuals. I am not raising robots. Most of all, the greatest lesson I learned as a strong willed woman was how to listen to others and learn from their experiences and advice. That, above all, is what I want my strongest daughter to learn. And that is the one thing Cynthia Tobias says she will not. I have to disagree, because I did and I so I hope my daughter will, too.

This book condones and perpetuates the patterns I saw in so many middle schoolers. I am so saddened that so many people loved this book. If you are a Christian parent, please be careful with this book. It is very subtle, but it does not condone submission to authority or integrity in strong willed children.

Editorial Review:

It's easy to recognize a strong-willed child. Difficult to discipline, at times impossible to motivate, strong-willed children present unique, frustrating, and often exhausting challenges to those who care for them. But now, the miracle parents long for can happen. Offering new hope, achievable goals, and a breath of fresh air to families and teachers, Cynthia Tobias explains how the mind of a strong-willed child works - and how to use that information to the child's best advantage.