Codependency Books

Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

Melody Beattie

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Total reviews: 163 Average rating: 4.5 of 5

Directly to you 4 out of 5 stars.
3 of 3 people found this review helpful.

The author talks directly to you as you read and as a reader you are able to grasp so much helpful information. . I recommend this book to anyone who is looking for help with co-dependency and I also recommend for a perfect relationship I Love You. Now What?: Falling in Love is a Mystery, Keeping It Isn't

A life preserver. 5 out of 5 stars.
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This book is a sanity saver. There are some inspirational things to take away from reading it. Beattie injects her own life story into this self-help book. Coupled with her other books, it makes for reflective and well written advice.

Codependent No More 5 out of 5 stars.
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I haven't finished reading it yet but just by reading introduction and couple of chapters, I knew that book was what I was searching for... It is just what I need to get through difficult time...

Eye Opener 5 out of 5 stars.
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This book was a huuge eye opener for me. If you believe you might be codependent or want to find out more on the subject- this book is for you. It contains many examples of real people; as well as a list of habits and traits a codependent generally possesses. It also offers helpful tips to break the cycle and possibly change your life. I recommend this for anyone who is, thinks they might be, or have a codependent in their life.

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recovery has begun for millions of individuals with this straightforward guide. through personal examples and exercises, readers are shown how controlling others forces them to lose sight of their own needs and happiness.

The Language of Letting Go (Hazelden Meditation Series)

Melody Beattie

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Taking Care of Ourselves 5 out of 5 stars.
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A decade or so ago a friend who was going through a rough patch in her life had a therapist who highly recommended this book of meditations. I happened to be in Barnes and Noble with her when she bought Melody Beattie's book, and after perusing a few of the passages, I bought one for myself. What a difference reading The Language of Letting Go made (and continues to make) in my life.

I've bought and given away several copies of Letting Go since that night in the bookstore in the hope that my friends will benefit as much as I have from these sage words of "gentle" advice and reminders that we deserve "the best that life and love have to offer." A few of my personal favorites are the reminders to be patient and realize that timing is perfect, that it's okay to say "no" sometimes and equally okay to say yes to what feels right and good, and that we are responsible for taking care of ourselves.

The realization that we are being divinely led and that we need to trust our Higher Power is reinforced throughout the book. Anyone interested in growth and self-care will benefit from reading it.

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Reflecting on the core issues of codependency, Melody Beattie encourages readers to trust themselves on their journey to self-care. Each meditation is filled with the personal warmth and insight Beattie brings to all of her books.

I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality

Jerold J. Kreisman, Hal Straus

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"AM I LOSING MY MIND?"

People with Borderline Personality Disorderexperience such violent and frightening mood swingsthat they often fear for their sanity. They can beeuphoric one moment, despairing and depressed thenext. There are an estimated 10 million sufferersof BPD living in America today -- each displayingremarkably similar symptoms:

• a shaky sense of identity
• sudden violent outbursts
• oversensitivity to real or imagined rejection
• brief, turbulent love affairs
• frequent periods of intense depression
• eating disorders, drug abuse, and other
  self-destructive tendencies
• an irrational fear of abandonment and an
  inability to be alone

For years BPD was difficult to describe, diagnose, andtreat. But now, for the first time, Dr. Jerold J. Kreismanand health writer Hal Straus offer much-neededprofessional advice, helping victims and their familiesto understand and cope with this troubling,shockingly widespread affliction.

Women Who Love Too Much

Robin Norwood

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The relationship classic hailed by Erica Jong as "life-
changing" -- now updated with a new introduction
and resource section!

The #1 New York Times bestseller that asks
ARE YOU A WOMAN WHO LOVES TOO MUCH?

• Do you find yourself attracted again and again to troubled, distant, moody men -- while "nice guys" seem boring?
• Do you obsess over men who are emotionally unavailable, addicted to work, hobbies, alcohol, or other women?
• Do you neglect your friends and your own interests to be immediately available to him?
• Do you feel empty without him, even though being with him is torment?

Robin Norwood's groundbreaking work will enable you to recognize the roots of your destructive patterns of relating and provide you with a step-by-step guide to a more rewarding way of living and loving.

If being in love means being in pain, you need to read Women Who Love Too Much.

Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives

Pia Mellody, Andrea Wells Miller, Keith Miller

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Parenting (and Re-Parenting) 101 5 out of 5 stars.
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In what may be one of the best books ever on functional parenting, Mellody and the Millers have tackled the single most common psychiatric phenomenon of our time, deconstructed it into language most can grasp, and set forth a means of re-parenting those who didn't get the real deal the first time around.

For mental health professionals, this may also be one of the best books available for patient (with sufficient ego strength) and/or family education on Kernberg / Preston Level One and Two Borderline Personality Disorder, as well as for family education with regard to pretty much the entire spectrum of borderline, narcissistic, passive-aggressive and obsessive-compulsive personality disorders.

I have read at least a dozen lay and professional books addressing the topic of "codependence." While Melody Beattie's and Patricia Evan's work, and the -Codependents Anonymous- and new -Adult Children of Alcoholics- "big books" -are- terrific stuff, this looks like the most accessible, research-grounded, well-organized and tool-delivering of the lot. (Anyone seriously set upon recovering from boundary difficulties with others is well-advised to just read them all, of course.)

Owing to the input of the Millers, -Facing Codependence- is more a product of modern "patient education" or "psychoeducation" theory (see Rankin's and Stallings's -Patient Education- or any of the books in the "Compact Clinicals" series) than the other books currently available. This is not the hodgepodge of useful data developed by committee in the two afforementioned 12 Step groups, and is more functionally set forth in the fashion of Lev Vygotsky's "scaffolding" than Beattie's more famous or Evans's more narrowly targeted books.

Beyond that, the progressive, level-upon-level organization of the book and concrete examples of both functional and dysfunctional parenting make it hands-down one of the finest guides to raising effective, pathology-free children ever published. If it were up to me, this would be required reading at the college freshman level.

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Pia Mellody creates a framework for identifying codependent thinking, emotions and behaviour and provides an effective approach to recovery. Mellody sets forth five primary adult symptoms of this crippling condition, then traces their origin to emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical and sexual abuses that occur in childhood. Central to Mellody's approach is the concept that the codependent adult's injured inner child needs healing. Recovery from codependence, therefore, involves clearing up the toxic emotions left over from these painful childhood experiences.

Adult Children of Alcoholics

Janet G. Woititz

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Total reviews: 57 Average rating: 4.5 of 5

Dysfuctional family 5 out of 5 stars.
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The book teaches you about lifestyles of alcoholics and what they experience during the time of living at home.

Adult Children of Alcoholics 5 out of 5 stars.
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This is an excellent book. I have used the book in discussing this topic in university-level Social Work classes I have taught over the years.

Excellent 5 out of 5 stars.
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This book has helped me to organize my feelings. I feel like a more centered person.

yes, this is an excellent book 5 out of 5 stars.
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This is an excellent book. I first read it nearly 20 years ago and I was blown away by how accurate it was - it described me! It was so helpful and I go back to it now and then for some reminders. It really helped me and was my first step toward real growth.

Adult Children of Alcoholics 5 out of 5 stars.
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I wish it hadn't taken me 32 years to find this book--It really put my life in perspective--EXCELLENT

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This book provides wisdom and information for all Adult Children of dysfunctional families.

How to Break Your Addiction to a Person

Howard Halpern

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Are you in love--or addicted? How to know when to call it quits...and how to find the courage to call it quits.



Are you unable to leave a love relationship even though it gives you more pain than joy?  Your judgment and self-respect tell you to end it, but still, to your dismay, you hang on.  You are addicted--to a person.  Now there is an insightful, step-by-step guide to breaking that addiction--and surviving the split.  Drawing on dozens of provocative case histories, psychotherapist Howard Helpern explains to you:



Why you can get addicted to a person.



Why and how you may try to deceive yourself. ("He really loves me, he just doesn't know how to show it.")



How you can recognize the symptoms of a bad relationship.



How to deal with the power moves and guilt trips your partner uses to hold you.



Why strong feelings of jealousy do not mean you are "in love."



How to get through the agonizing breakup period--without going back.



How not to get caught in such a painful relationship again.


From the Paperback edition.

Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love

Pia Mellody, Andrea Wells Miller, J. Keith Miller

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A brilliant new guide to understanding the origins of codependence and the path to recovery by a nationally recognized authority on dependency and addiction.

In this fresh new look at codependence, Pia Mellody traces the origins of this illness back to childhood, describing a whole range of emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical, and sexual abuses. Because of these earlier experiences, codependent adults often lack the skills necessary to lead mature lives and have satisfying relationships.

Recovery from codependence comes from clearing up the toxic feelings left over from childhood and learning to reparent oneself by intervening on the adult symptoms of codependence. Central to Mellody's concept is the idea of the "precious child" that needs healing within each adult. She creates a framework for identifying codependent behavior and describes an effective approach to recovery that includes both therapy and self-help processes. Designed to be used with her new workbook for codependents, Breaking Free, this is a powerful tool for understanding the nature of codependence.

Codependents' Guide to the Twelve Steps

Melody Beattie

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First the Hurt, Now the Healing...

Millions identified with Melody Beattie in Codependent No More and gained inspiration from her in Beyond Codependency. Now she's back to help you discover how recovery programs work and to help you find the right one for you. Interpreting the famous Alcoholics Anonymous Twelve Steps specifically for codependent issues for the very first time, this groundbreaking book combines Melody's expertise with the experience of other people to:

• Explain each step and how you can apply it to your particular issues

• Offer specific exercises and activities to use both in group settings and on your own

• Provide a directory of the wide range of Twelve Step programs -- including Al-Anon, Codependents Anonymous, Codependents of Sex Addicts, Adult Children of Alcoholics, and more

The uniquely warm and compassionate voice of Melody Beattie will inspire you to turn your life around -- one step at a time.

Healing The Child Within: Discovery and Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families

Charles L. Whitfield M.D.

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I've read better 2 out of 5 stars.
1 of 1 people found this review helpful.

The book has a good idea behind it. And it makes some good points. But I found it much more difficult to read that many other books of this type. Not "hard" difficult or anything like that. Difficult in the sense that the book just never caught my attention the way that other self help books have and I really had to force myself to keep reading. I don't think I got as much out of it as I could have simply because I had such a hard time paying attention.

If you really want to uncover some thruths about yourself, 5 out of 5 stars.
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I suggest you read this book. I often felt isolated and "different", not knowing why. Just reading through this book uncovered and healed much of my pain that I denied having for so long. This book has been a gift to me, helping me to understand myself and others much more, which is what I always really wanted. I felt so stuck, and this book along with a few other materials was a real lifechanger. It put into words what I didn't want to know, only to free me of the shame through acknowledgement. Truly a springboard to a better life!

Editorial Review:

The "Child Within" refers to that part of each of us which is ultimately alive, energetic, creative and fulfilled; it is our real self-who we truly are.