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Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction

Patrick J. Carnes

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Total reviews: 65 Average rating: 4.5 of 5

Editorial Review:

We recommend Partrick Carne's Out of the Shadows..
to every sex addict and codependent we treat.. This (book
provides) a tremendously powerful experience, helping both
sex addicts and codependents realize that they are not alone
and not destined to eternally be at the mercy of the disease.
Dr. Ralph Earle and Dr. Gregory Crow, Lonely All the Time

"Out of the Shadows has become a guidebook for sufferers and
counselors alike."
Roda Salter, Keene Sentinel

Sex is at the core of our identities. And when it becomes a compulsion, it can unravel our lives.

Out of the Shadows is the premier work on this disorder, written by a pioneer in its treatment. Revised and updated to include the latest research--and to address the exploding phenomenon of cybersex addiction--this third edition identifies the danger signs, explains the dynamics, and describes the consequences of sexual addiction and dependency. With practical wisdom and spiritual clarity, it points the way out of the shadows of sexual compulsion and back into the light and fullness of life.

Don't Call It Love: Recovery From Sexual Addiction

Patrick Carnes

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Total reviews: 16 Average rating: 5.0 of 5

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"Dr. Patrick Carnes is a creative,  pioneering, and courageous human being. His books are  changing the lives of  thousands!"

"I lost three marriages, all because of affairs."  "I became suicidal because of multiple intense  involvements."

"I spent money on sex when I  needed it for children's clothes."

"I  lost promotion opportunities and a special  scholarship because my co-workers found out about my sex  life."

Every day they face the possibility of  destruction, risking their families, fiances,  jobs, dignity, and health. They come from all walks  of life: ministers, physicians, therapists,  politicians, executives, blue-collar workers. Most were  abused as children--sexually, physically or  emotionally--and saw addictive behavior in their early  lives. Most grapple with other addictions as well,  but their fiercest battle is with the most  astounding prevalent "secret" disorder in  America: sexual addiction. Here is a ground-breaking  work by the nation's leading professional expert on  sexual addiction, based on the candid testimony of  more than one thousand recovering sexual addicts  in the first major scientific study of the  disorder. This essential volume includes not only the  revealing findings of Dr. Carne's research with  recovering addicts but also advice from the addicts and  co-addicts themselves as they work to overcome  their compulsive behavior. Positive, hopeful, and  practical, Don't Call It Love is  a landmark book that helps us better understand  all addictions, their causes, and the difficult path  to recovery.

Hope After Betrayal: Healing When Sexual Addiction Invades Your Marriage

Meg Wilson

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Total reviews: 7 Average rating: 4.5 of 5

Great information on a relevant topic 5 out of 5 stars.
10 of 10 people found this review helpful.

Meg is quick to point out that sexual addiction isn't about sex, and a sexual addict isn't just the guy you see on "To Catch A Predator." Sexual addiction has quite possibly visited the guy in the cubicle next to you at work or the pastor in your pulpit. Meg's book is about the redemption and restoration of a woman's heart that's been torn to pieces by her husband's bad choices. If you or anyone you know has been hurt by her husband's repeated use of pornography or other sexual activity, I would encourage you to take a look at Hope After Betrayal. One of the most amazing things about the book was that Meg's husband, Dave, wrote the last chapter. He encourages women that their husband's battle is truly his battle - and Dave gives these women permission to stop enabling. Hope After Betrayal is a powerful testimony of what hard work and the love of God can accomplish in a marriage when two people are willing to walk through the fire to reach for the purest gold.

Editorial Review:

Written from firsthand experience, this amazingly open book offers hope and healing for women who have been hurt by their husband's sexual addiction.

The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography

Wendy Maltz, Larry Maltz

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Total reviews: 13 Average rating: 4.0 of 5

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Since the explosion of the Internet and other forms of digital technology, the number of people addicted to pornography has skyrocketed. But there has been a distinct lack of resources to help them until now. The Porn Trap is the first book to take a comprehensive look at porn addiction and other devastating consequences of porn use, addressing the full range of problems that impact everyone from recreational "dabblers" to compulsive addicts, and the people who care about them.

In this groundbreaking book, sex and relationship therapists Wendy and Larry Maltz take on this important subject with wisdom, authority, and compassion. They shed new light on the power of pornography—revealing why it's so easy to develop a serious problem with porn and often hard to break free from its clutches. Without judgment or blame, the Maltzes outline the destructive effects of porn use, and offer a commonsense, practical approach for healing supported by innovative exercises, checklists, and suggestions.

The Porn Trap will help you to:

• Identify and evaluate the impact of porn
• Decide whether it's time to quit using porn
• Learn how to stop using porn and deal with cravings
• Rebuild self-esteem and restore personal integrity
• Heal a relationship harmed by porn use, and
• Develop a thriving and satisfying sexual life without porn

Throughout the book are powerful real-life stories from everyday people from all walks of life who have struggled with porn and gotten out from under its influence. Their experiences show that no matter how bad things may seem, it is possible to change and eventually triumph over this increasingly common problem.

With The Porn Trap, Wendy and Larry Maltz provide a unique blend of help, hope, and healing for all who want to move away from porn, improve their lives, and create genuine intimacy with a partner.

False Intimacy: Understanding the Struggle of Sexual Addiction

Harry W. Schaumburg

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WHY ARE SEXUAL TEMPTATIONS SO HARD TO RESIST WHEN THE PRICE IS SO HIGH?

We all long for true intimacy. Many people seek to fill that void by seeking sexual relationships-whether real or fantasized-that promise to provide the relief, acceptance, and fulfillment for which they long. But it is false intimacy. And as Dr. Harry Schaumburg points out, "Sexual intimacy can't relieve their deep, unmet longings."

False Intimacy goes beyond behavioral symptoms and willpower-based solutions to provide biblical guideposts for the journey to restoration. With frank honesty, False Intimacy examines the roots behind these kinds of behaviors and offers realistic direction to those whose lives or ministries have been impacted by sexual addiction.

"The finest work available for all who struggle with their sexuality or want to understand and help those who do."-Dr. Dan B. Allender, author of The Wounded Heart

"More people than we know battle against compelling sexual desires. Dr. Schaumburg thinks through the realities of the battle and offers a biblical perspective with wisdom, clarity, and compassion."-Dr. Larry Crabb, teacher, counselor, author of Inside Out

"This is the best Christian book on sexual addiction I've ever read. Schaumburg goes far deeper than the surface symptoms to expose core issues of this common problem."-Bob Davies, executive director, Exodus International TABLE OF CONTENTS: Chapter 1: What Is Sexual Addiction? Chapter 2: Sexually Addictive Behaviors Chapter 3: What Causes Sexual Addiction? Chapter 4: Hope for Those Who Are Sexually Addicted Chapter 5: Responding to Your Sexually Addicted Spouse Chapter 6: The Recovering Marriage Chapter 7: Women and False Intimacy Chapter 8: Preventing Sexual Addiction in Your Children Chapter 9: Sexual Addiction in the Church Chapter 10: The Church as a Healing Community Chapter 11: Healing for Christian Leaders Appendix A: Indicators of Childhood Sexual Abuse Appendix B: Ministry Resources

Women, Sex, and Addiction: A Search for Love and Power

Charlotte S. Kasl

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Total reviews: 15 Average rating: 5.0 of 5

Wonderful and private way to heal yourself from the inside! 5 out of 5 stars.
13 of 14 people found this review helpful.

Freedom from Relationship/ Co-Dependency/ Sexual Addictions is the greatest asset to this book. I started reading it when my relationship ended with a man I cared for. My bad relationship triggered many unrealistic emotions inside myself that caused me a lot of self damage by acting out and dating guys that were all bad for me because of my low self image since the break-up.
I couldn't see it at the time but I had become Addicted.

Thanks to a friend and this book my healing began two years ago and I feel so much better about myself and about my relationships with others. This book is a MUST READ!

Study it, learn it, then be well...

Editorial Review:

In our society, sex can easily become the price many women pay for love and the illusion of security. A woman who seeks a sense of personal power and an escape from pain may use sex and romance as a way to feel in control, just as an alcoholic uses alcohol; but sex never satisfies her longing for love and self-worth. In this wise and compassionate book, Charlotte Kasl shows women how they can learn to experience their sexuality as a source for love and positive power and sex as an expression that honors the soul as well as the body.

In The Shadows of The Net: Breaking Free from Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior

Ph.D., Patrick Carnes, Ph.D., David L. Delmonico, M.A., Elizabeth Griffin, Joseph M. Moriarity

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As Internet usage has exploded in recent years, so has the prevalence of compulsive online sexual behavior--a problem first addressed five years ago by Patrick Carnes and coauthors of the breakthrough book, In The Shadows of the Net. Updated with the latest information, trends, and developments, the second edition equips readers with specific strategies for recognizing and changing compulsive sexual behaviors. Personal stories reveal how desperate life can become for online sex addicts--divorce, career loss, and financial ruin are common outcomes. More importantly the authors set forth a path for breaking free from compulsive online sexual behavior and sustaining lifelong recovery.

Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction

Mark Laaser

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Total reviews: 10 Average rating: 4.5 of 5

Straight forward and very practical 5 out of 5 stars.
14 of 15 people found this review helpful.

This book hits the nail on the head by dealing with the roots of sexual addiction and giving practical steps toward recovery. If you are ready to be free, then do the hard work of examining your childhood for any abuse or neglect, whether real or perceived, and you'll discover the lies you tell yourself to find comfort in impurity. This is where the real challenge is because we are so afraid of feeling that pain again. But I'm here to tell you that the path to healing is through the pain and discomfort of processing those experiences. Know this...emotional pain will not kill you but the addiction will. You will need help from others to do this but you can and you must do it to rid yourself of this demon. The book gives you all the info and direction to do this.

The best resource I've read yet 5 out of 5 stars.
0 of 0 people found this review helpful.

This book is by far the best I've read on this subject. It doesn't dance around language or issues, but hits the subject head on with Biblical principles. I'd recommend this book (and have) to anyone suffering from sexual addiction.

Editorial Review:

A former sex addict himself, Dr. Mark Laaser offers help and hope for regaining and maintaining sexual integrity, self-control, and wholesome, biblical sexuality.

Breaking Free: Understanding Sexual Addiction & the Healing Power of Jesus

Russell Willingham

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Total reviews: 17 Average rating: 5.0 of 5

Editorial Review:

Our world is awash in sex. We are bombarded with it everywhere we turn--TV, newspapers and magazines, music, movies and the Internet. When this ever-present temptation mixes with human weaknesses and unmet needs, many get pulled into addiction to sexually sinful behavior. They may detest their own habits, but they can't seem to break free. Is there any hope? Russell Willingham speaks from his own experience and that of the many he has counseled. His answer? "Yes! There is hope. Jesus offers forgiveness and healing." True stories show how the principles in this book can be put into action. The essentials are spelled out in practical steps that can help people begin to break free. Willingham deals with such issues as

* what all addicts have in common

* the hunt of the malnourished heart

* where to find the courage to face the dark side

* wrestling with shame and grace

* the healing effect of radical honesty This realistic yet hopeful book offers a new way to see the world for every person who wants to understand and break free from sexual addiction. Features & Benefits

* honest examination of sexual addiction

* shows how Jesus offers forgiveness and healing

* real-life stories of individuals who struggle

* twelve practical steps for recovery and accountability

* deals honestly with pornography, fantasies, masturbation, adultery, prostitution, molestation, abuse and more

Living with Your Husband's Secret Wars

Marsha Means

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Total reviews: 21 Average rating: 3.0 of 5

Not for wives of husbands who want to change 1 out of 5 stars.
35 of 37 people found this review helpful.

I read this book for a friend and it was nowhere near as good as Breaking Free (by Russ Willingham) that my husband and I read to address the same problem. From what I gathered, Marsha Means has never herself experienced sexual betrayal, just the fear of it. She has some basic info on codependency in the book, but I would argue that the wife chapter in Breaking Free is just as practical without all the scary stories with no resolution. If your husband wants to change, read Breaking Free together and leave this one on the shelf. You might find yourself loving your husband through his not-so-secret wars, not just living with him.

Not for those with a true sexual addiction 1 out of 5 stars.
2 of 2 people found this review helpful.

I purchased this book shortly after discovering that my husband had a sexual addiction. For me, the book was too basic. If you're upset because you found an "off color" magazine in your husband's nightstand, then this book is for you. If your partner has a true sex addiction, this book seems juvenile and rediculous.

Editorial Review:

When a wife discovers her husband is entangled in sexual sin, she's devastated. This book offers proactive steps to help her heal.